Well Jay babe and I nearly hit the same mountain we hit when I did my second working tests.
We went into our first field trial with confidence and Jay & I did well. I then got verbally knocked by a person with 'green eyed monster syndrome' just before I took part in our 2nd Field Trial, which is exactly what happened to me before our second working test, and once again I let it effect me as I did at the working test :(
I had convinced myself this time that I didn't let it effect me but on reflection I know I did.
Jay Jay has not been right for over a week, nearly 2 weeks now and so we gave her a break after tuesdays trial. She and I had not performed at the trial anywhere near to the standard that the little girl can, even though we still came away with a Certificate of Merit, once again.
Took her out yesterday and within 2 minutes, ok maybe 3mins, she did what she hasn't done since the working test period which was to come running straight back to me on direction work and she did it again and again and again.
So I kicked myself up the backside as I know she does this from a combination of a pinch of naughtiness, a huge dash of lack of confidence in her handler and big dash of those bloody vibes I must oooooze when I am in doubt of my ability to guide her through new experiences.
So, plan of action, I couldn't get strong with her, never do anyway, I just had to be firm yet praising, ask for perfection without intimidating her and most of all, not kill her or me he he he :)
We stayed out there for a while, BUT, Jay Jay & I come home with a grin on our face. We had worked through it and she was once again doing exactly what I asked of her without her running back to me.
Now I am fingers crossed that she does not do it again today when I take her out
BUT, she and I didn't fall apart so badly either yesterday or at the field trial as we did at the working test so that is a positive.
As they say
'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger'
so you could say these people are doing me a favour as I am learning (still learning) not to allow them to effect me :))
A friend that bullies us is not a friend and the only way to deal with bullies is to show strength.